Core values begin to form in us from an early age.  It is usually a parent that is the first depositor into our core value account.  Family psychologist Dr. James Dobson has said, “Children are not casual guests in our home. They have been loaned to us temporarily for the purpose of loving them and instilling a foundation of values on which their future lives will be built.”

A great example of this is a story my wife Nancy tells.  One Christmas she questioned her father on why he was giving to the poor when their own family had unmet needs.  Her father responded, “Because there are people who are worse off than we are.”  That simple interchange produced a core value in her of sacrificial giving.

In our early years teachers and coaches can also influence or core values.  I remember my high school civics teacher, Mr. Sokol.  He would walk around the classroom asking students questions about the prior evening homework assignment.  When we did not have a ready answer he would way, “Something for nothing.  You can’t get something for nothing.”  His daily recitation instilled in his students the value of the importance of learning. 

In its “Guidelines for Developing Personal Core Values” the GPS Life Journey curriculum makes these three initial observations:

1. Your core values are the most important beliefs that you hold.  These are the things that you value most.  They demonstrate the core or center of what you believe.
2. Your core values direct your behavior. You behave a certain way because you believe certain things.
3. Your core values help you make right decisions. You decide to do or not do certain things based on your values.

 

To Succeed
You Need to Know
Your Core Values

I was speaking to a young business man who was in training to become the third generation to lead his family’s business.  I told him, “You have a great heritage to continue.  All you have to do is to keep doing good for people.” However, his blank expression concerned me.  It was as though a “Vacancy” sign lit up in effect saying “I do not know the core values that have made the organization successful for two generations.” I realized that without this understanding, it was unlikely that the organization could prosper under his leadership.

In order to be successful as individuals, families and organizations, we need to understand our core values.  Core values are essentially the ethics that we live by.  They are principles, standards, or qualities we consider worthwhile and desirable.  They dictate our behavior and help us get and stay motivated.