What I have learned about people and organizations...so far.

Thursday, January 31, 2013

What is a Life Purpose Coach Anyway?
A Life Purpose Coach is someone who is a trained master in creating significant conversations.  A coach asks questions, listens and then helps you recognize what you believe to be true.  Here’s an example:  I was recently coaching a person who said that they were very unhappy in their career and wanted to do something to make peoples' lives better.  He spoke very lengthily and confusingly about what this new thing might look like.  As he spoke, it was as if he was walking through deep mud. He was getting no where.  All he could clearly articulate was that he hated his present profession and couldn’t fathom going back to it and working for company x, y or z.  Then I asked him to talk about his professional experience.  His entire demeanor changed.  He moved forward in his chair, became articulate and engaged and started talking passionately about what he would do regarding a specific opportunity.  I listened and then stopped him briefly and said, “You just spent 45 minutes vaguely talking about some new possibility and telling me how you hated your profession of 30 years.  Then when I asked you about your profession you came alive and were articulate, passionate and focused.  It doesn’t sound to me like you hate your profession after all.” 

He agreed and we conclude our coaching session with him establishing to rejoin his profession.  We also reserved future time slots for additional coaching sessions so that he can begin to define the next steps for pursuing his desire to eventually transition into significant work.
You see, I didn’t really have to tell him anything he didn’t already know.  I just asked questions, listened and repeated back what he had told me. That’s what a coach does.  Coaches do very little in overtly giving direction, but it takes the involvement of a coach to enable most people to focus and move forward.