You’ve lost that Lovin' Feeling

When I was a little kid growing up in the 60’s all of the other neighborhood children were much older than me.  They were all playing rock and roll on their radios and record players.  One of my favorite songs of that era was by the Righteous Brothers entitled “You’ve Lost That Lovin’ Feeling.”   Being casual with a relationship will definatly cause that “lovin feeling to wane.  To protect our relationships we need to remember that people are valuable and we should treat them with care.  We take care of our homes and our cars so why not our relationships?   Like Coach Walsh said, carelessness is always at the center of relationship problems.

(To be continued.)

Too Close for Comfort

We have all heard Aesop’s fable, “familiarity breeds contempt.”  I especially like the way French novelist George Sand puts it, “Admiration and familiarity are strangers.”  When we act in an over familiar manner in a relationship we fail to recognize the natural boundary lines that all people have.  When we become relationally presumptuous we violate the individual autonomy of those in our work, home and social lives.  We must resist our tendency to manipulate and control others.  These and other actions of over familiarity will set back our relationships and send people running for the hills for safety.

 

(To be continued.)

You’ve done Me Wrong

Google this title and you will see a list of the top 75 country songs about broken relationships.  Whether you like country, jazz or popular music you have heard hundreds of songs that describe being out of relationship.  Without exception these songs lack one common theme...an apology.  So what is the first thing we should do when we fail in a relationship?  We need to fess up, take responsibility and apologize immediately. Just do it!  Don’t wait as every minute will cause the damage we have caused to go deeper and deeper and will make the recovery more difficult.    

(To be continued.)